Feeling Stuck? Here’s How To Have More Fun In Life, Starting Today

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I’m sure it says something about my personality that for the last three years, one of my New Year’s resolutions has been to “have more fun.” Okay, not simply to have more fun… but to learn how to have fun. As a classic Enneagram 3, my intense work ethic can sometimes be at odds with my ultimate goal of living life to the fullest. So, every January 1 when I journal about how I want the next year to look, I inevitably write some version of the following: “More joy, more laughter, more play.”

In the scheme of things, the start of 2023 is far behind us. We’ve flown through the winter and find ourselves on the precipice of spring. It’s arguably the best time of the year—there’s hope and the promise of warmer, brighter days ahead. But oftentimes, with the excitement of our resolutions months behind us, our momentum slows. And recapturing the same motivation we once felt can seem impossible.

I’ve always skewed more serious. When I’m in the zone with a goal in mind, it’s hard for me to see outside my carefully-crafted plan of action. But in order to be more carefree, I know that breaking that script is exactly what I need to feel more joy in the everyday experience. When I’m on a long hike or at the beach, I easily flow into a headspace that’s more about enjoying life instead of checking things off my to-do list. And yes, the beauty of nature tends to awaken that spirit in many of us. But I also think that it has something to do with the fact that an interruption in the flow of life makes us feel more alive.

Featured image from our interview with Olivia Muniak by Michelle Nash.

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Image by Michelle Nash

How to Have Fun in Life, Starting Today

I started 2023 by downloading a new book that’s appropriately titled The Power of Fun: How to Feel Alive Again. The author, Catherine Price (who also wrote this other favorite) starts by breaking down her definition of “true fun.” Turns out, many of the things that we might think are fun are, upon further examination, not that satisfying after all. She classifies things like binge-watching shows and scrolling through social media as “fake fun.”

“Fake Fun is numbing and leaves us empty when we’re done. True Fun makes us feel nourished and refreshed.”

I believe that even when there are serious things happening in the world around us, we can express empathy and compassion while also welcoming play and laughter into our days. Inspired by my readings and my experiences, this is how I’m learning to have fun in the small, everyday moments that bring wonder and excitement to my life.

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Image by Emma Bassill

Fun Is a Mindset

Let’s use an example that most of us encounter every day: making dinner. There are two women making the exact same dinner on a Tuesday night. Let’s say, lasagna. One of them is halfway paying attention to what she’s doing as she mulls over an issue at work that day while cursing herself for choosing a recipe that requires multiple layers of noodles/cheese/sauce because she still has lunches to pack and emails to answer and… this is all just a little too much for a Tuesday.

The other woman? She’s barefoot in the kitchen with the music turned up, savoring the experience of doing one of her favorite things. Maybe she recruits a family member to help her layer. Maybe she pours a glass of wine and savors the feeling of doing one of her favorite things on a Tuesday night. Same circumstance, a totally different experience.

Or think about the simple act of having a conversation, something we do all the time, with strangers, family, and friends. What differentiates a boring conversation with one that counts as “banter,” or even, flirting? It’s all in how we choose to see it.

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True Fun Is Playfulness, Connection, and Flow

In her book, Price names three qualities that must be present to experience True Fun in our lives: playfulness, connection, and flow. Playfulness is that spirit of lightheartedness and freedom, where you’re not thinking so much about everyday responsibilities but instead fully engaged in whatever you’re doing.

“When people are being playful, they sparkle.”

Connection is about having a shared experience with another person or thing. It could be a connection to nature, an activity you love (like drawing), an animal, or another person. It happens when a person “joins together with someone while at the same time feeling totally themselves.”

And Flow is a term that describes the feeling of being totally engaged in the present experience to the point that you lose track of time. It’s that feeling of getting lost in whatever you’re doing.

If my goal is to have more fun, I can seek out experiences that include all three of these qualities, or look for ways to infuse more of each of them into my day-to-day life. When playfulness, connection, and flow are present, we get the magic of true fun.

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Embrace the Idea of Unconditional Fun

My definition of unconditional fun is this: you don’t need to wait until things are a certain way to be having fun. It’s not dependent on what’s happening around us. Rather, it’s an internal energy shift—a way of moving through the world that’s not so dependent on external circumstances. Picture that person who seems like they’re always having a blast. (Drew Barrymore, anyone?) Magnetic, right? I’ve been looking for those small moments of delight that can be found even on an imperfect day. When I’m paying careful, mindful attention, everything comes to life.

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Have More Fun by Breaking the Script

A couple of years ago, I read and loved a book called The Power of Moments. It’s all about how we can create more memories and extraordinary moments in our lives. One of the biggest takeaways for me was a concept called “breaking the script.” The idea is that by doing something unexpected, we turn off our autopilot and transform routine moments into something more fun.

“Break the Script Moments” I’ve Been Embracing Lately:

  • After dinner, instead of turning on TV, take a family walk around the neighborhood.
  • Take a bath with a great podcast on my headphones—in the middle of the day!
  • Notice something you love about someone in your life and tell them.
  • Instead of watching my kids play dodgeball, jump in and play with them full stop. (This also happens to be an incredible workout.)
  • Make fancy cocktails (or mocktails!) on the weekend.
  • Do something you’ve never done before. I’ve been wanting to try rock climbing.
  • Make a new recipe.
  • Read poetry instead of nonfiction.
  • Look for opportunities for random acts of kindness. Trust me, they’re everywhere.
  • When the kids are in their pajamas for bed, announce that we’re going to get ice cream.
  • Buy myself flowers—and splurge on the peonies.
  • Wake up early for a morning meditation on the back patio. There’s something about watching the sunrise that changes my entire day.
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Image by Teal Thomsen

Spontaneity Is the Spice of Life

I also learned in The Power of Moments that novel experiences make time seem to slow down and carve out memories in our brain. As kids, we were experiencing so many things for the first time. Instead of checking “water the plants” off our to-do list, we were looking at the tiny wings of a hummingbird or watching an earthworm burrow into the soil. I’ll never forget my mom’s occasional announcements of “banana splits for dinner!” Sure, it wasn’t healthy per se, but the spontaneity of those nights fed my spirit in a way that broccoli never would have.

Life’s too short. I’m ready to play.

I wonder if, instead of looking at unknowns and uncertainties in our lives as “stressful,” we could reframe them as a chance to get back in touch with our inner kid that lived day by day? We couldn’t plan everything then—and there’s a lot we can’t plan for now.

So let’s fully engage with life. Smile generously, laugh easily, look for opportunities for fun, and disrupt the routine. Life’s too short. I’m ready to play.

This post was originally published on March 8, 2022, and has since been updated.

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